SOUNDS VERY FAMillar..............I just experience a horrible heart wrenching scam through match also......they need to be stopped

To Tarzan Jane:

You said what men in his 40s will date a 50 year old woman?

Honey, nowadays open-minded men don't mind dating a female a little older than them if their personalities go amazingly well together and she has taken good care of her body, and is fashionable, healthy, and fun-loving.

A few years ago my friend married a man 10 years younger than her. They couldn't be happier and more perfect for each other. If you saw them, they act like two kids in love. However, my friend looks good, she is very physically active, she's so charming, and if anything she looks younger than her husband! By the way, he's a normal, attractive man with a nice body weight, and a good job. He was the one chasing after her, at the beginning she wasn't even taking him seriously.

Another example is my brother, he's in his late 30s and he's crazy about his girlfriend who is in her 40's. But like with my friend above, she "does" look good, has an amzing fashion sense, and is a happy, positve person. No, my brother isn't some gigolo, anyways the age difference would have to be bigger for that. He's a good looking guy with a normal job and good values. Before he met her he was dating a woman younger who was selfish, and he dumped her because he couldn't put up with her crap anymore.

So even though I think match.com most likely has fake profiles, it's not rare at all for a man to fall head over hills with a woman older than him, if she's got the right stuff that'll make his head spin.

Women need to stop blaming all on their age, I'm tired of hearing that.

A bad attitude, low confidence, lack of interest in taking care of your body thru exercise, wearing unflattering clothes, all those things will turn off the best of men. Who wouldn't?

Match.com is causing me major distress, as looking for love can be so disappointing and frustrating.  I believe after having read a few of these articles that a guy I dated for about a month was even who he said he was!  I have had the worst luck and it is not getting any better.  I know right off the men that start IM me and asking for my yahoo address.  I tell them where to go...  And, I dated a "doctor", that claimed he was a people doctor and our dates were never more than 2 hours long and he actually did not even  show up until 10:00 some nights.  The whole thing was pretty wierd.  Then, a psychiatrist started writing me telling me he had been "following" me for a while on match (which I have been off and on for several years) and wrote me a love novel practically and started messaging me... Very creepy.  I had to block him.  I had another one yesterday that asked for my email and I said NO!!!!!  And, I am texting someone right now that I am getting suspicious of.  Very handsome kand is home with his mother who is dying of cancer and I have yet to have a conversation, although he did call  lastnight and I missed him.  The texting got very sexual which I put a stop to and he does not want to meet in a public place for some reason.  He said he hated to "meet and greet" and would rather meet at an ice cream shop.!   I also joined POF a week ago, and OMG!!!!!  That one is free and very scary.  I did meet a few nice men but no connection.  But, it really pisses me off the quantity of people either misrepresenting themselves or just out for entertainment.  I am thinking about quitting this altogether and just go to a church.....ugh  Anyone else with similar experiences?

I have had 4 of these criminals. Most claim to be widowers with young sons, in construction and are expatriots working somewhere else because the economy is bad here.  Had 2 give me the exact same story in 24hrs!!!  I didn’t know anything about this stuff so I said, “OMG I just spoke with someone else who must be on the same type of contract as you are!” Outrage!

They will get hateful if you let on that you are talking to anyone else and if they think you are on to them, so DO NOT Challenge them. 

They will try to get you off of Match email as soon as possible and on to yahoo or a private email- DO NOT until you are very, very comfortable because then you are at their mercy and have little security. These people prey on lonely people, (or why would you be on Match?) especially if you say you are looking for someone of a specific income/ educational bracket or if you have a certain level of education because then they think you have money. Very persistent and clingy…I blocked 3 of them after 24 hrs.

These people are sophisticated, organized criminals, not just individual hackers.  One guy "slipped up" and after a few "chats" and left me an IM on yahoo messenger after I had gotten off that he'd call or text me in the morning.  I had never given him my number.  He traced it from my email.  Like an idiot, I had never given him my last name, but I forgot that my last name was on my signature at the bottom of my email. Takes 2 min. to get a phone # if you have an email and a last name. 

Next day, he gave me the "my kid broke his leg and I can only pay the mean old hospital part of the bill, and they are demanding money" story.  He wanted me to send him the equivalent of $1500.

Um, no.  Go to the billing office and work out a payment plan. Good luck, Bye. BLOCK.

This was the smoothest one.  The rest get hostile.  Watch for ,"Angel, Honey, Baby, Beautiful" any syntax errors, and in grammar/ spelling and asking you to take down your profile because " I thought we had a connection" or "something special" after 2 IM chats.  I am very sorry if my earlier statement has offended people who may be English speakers as a second language.  That was never my intention.  As someone who speaks another language, passably, I know I make terrible syntax errors and hope native speakers forgive me and understand the respect and good will in which I am trying to communicate with them.  I imagine that most people still reading this long note are NOT criminals and so they will understand the spirit in which I am trying to convey the idea to trust your good judgment and maybe even have a friend read the communications with you as you get to know the person who says they are an expat. 

I wonder where these people get their profile photos... Change your Facebook profiles to "friends only".  I think they harvest photos from open profiles, which is SO EZ to do... just 2 clicks...I hope someone else can benefit from these lessons I learned.

Here are the names- maybe changed now ... Be Safe, lots of people have a lot of fun on Match!

caringloverdad or caringlovingdad, conference46, curlyseeker, sctt23156

I am a 25 year old decent looking male. I joined match.com because I thought I would have access to meet some quality women for some dates. I have now sent out over 70 emails in 3 weeks and maybe 2 have replied. 60% of the rest have been read and never replied to. Today i finally got a wink from a good looking girl and I go to reply to her and it says the profile doesn't exist. There is definitely fradulant activity going on with match.com. I have been considering reporting them to consumer affairs with the NYS attorney generals office. Class Action lawsuit sounds good to me!

what's the scam though?  match trying to trick you into keeping your membership?  or what?  how does the scammer make cash?